The gay footballer on twitter

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I hope this is a genuine account and not a sick joke.

A championship footballer came out to his family a few days ago and told his manager and chairman yesterday.

We could very well have our first openly gay player soon in the modern era. All the best to him.
 

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I hope this is a genuine account and not a sick joke.

A championship footballer came out to his family a few days ago and told his manager and chairman yesterday.

We could very well have our first openly gay player soon in the modern era. All the best to him.
I had the same hope as you.

Just announce it, do not make it into a big publicity stunt. He is having another meeting with his club on Sunday, then a press release at some point.

 

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Whatever happens, it's a sign of real progress that this individual is even considering this. I remember on a few occasions when we were playing away at Kidderminster (late 90s/early 00s I think), they had a player with a peroxide blonde haircut who had the chant 'Gayboy, Gayboy' directed at him for a lot of the game. It was sort of accepted at the time or at least people didn't feel brave enough to complain about it in any numbers. I honestly couldn't see that happening now.

Stats suggest it's 1 in 10 people who are gay and so that's about 3 in every first team/U23 squad.
 

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There were quite a few players in the WWC who were gay (as mentioned by the BBC in relation to them being keen to raise LGBT issues) and it wasn't a big deal. I'd hope in the current climate it wouldn't be a big deal in the men's game either. I suspect though that they will have to suffer a few chants etc from a few of the Neanderthals who still seem to feel that bigotry about race, colour etc are still an absolutely hilarious and original thing to shout about...
 

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If it is true, and there is no reason to doubt it on face value, I'm glad a player has taken the step with his family and club and will be able to talk openly about their sexuality. The final big taboo in football will be gone.

I have no doubt a few brainless idiots will come out with the some brainless "banter" at games, but the vast majority of football fans will have no issue or even better, be proud he is doing it.
 

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Why is it even news worthy ? In this day and age everyone is accepting of everyone’s sexuality and surely fussing about it just highlights something that should be normal and acceptable.

Everyone appears to want acceptance of it so surely just leave it be. I really don’t get the fascination of what someone, not known on a personal level, gets up to in his or hers time away from their public persona.
 

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Why is it even news worthy ? In this day and age everyone is accepting of everyone’s sexuality and surely fussing about it just highlights something that should be normal and acceptable.

Everyone appears to want acceptance of it so surely just leave it be. I really don’t get the fascination of what someone, not known on a personal level, gets up to in his or hers time away from their public persona.
Everyone is not accepting of everyone’s sexuality. I think that’s the point. The fact that no player has come out as gay whilst still playing speaks volume that there is still a huge stigma around sexuality in football.
My 13 year old son came out to me a few months ago. It really hammered it home to me how huge a thing it is. I really struggled when I advised him to keep it quiet at school as I did not want him to be alienated. I met with the head teacher at his school and even in this day and age the advice is to not broadcast it.
I have huge respect for this fella and when he does tell the world. In my opinion, it will be a massive step forward for society.
 

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Hopefully. Some people will consider the topic is not even worthy of mention as sexuality should not be an issue, but I think the more barriers are publicly broken down the better.
I agree that some may not consider the topic worthy and indeed it shouldn't be.
But as we know there are NO current professional footballers in England who have come out. So as we all know it is an issue until those barriers are broken down (hopefully this is the start).
 

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If said person wanted to make a genuine impact then JFDI, no need to start a storm in a "twitter" tea cup just tell the world.
There seems to be more of a "stigma" amongst players than there is on the terraces...............now that is odd!
 

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If said person wanted to make a genuine impact then JFDI, no need to start a storm in a "twitter" tea cup just tell the world.
There seems to be more of a "stigma" amongst players than there is on the terraces...............now that is odd!

I wonder if that's the case. There certainly doesn't seem to be an issue at OUFC amongst the fans but can we be sure that's the same at all clubs? There was quite a variation in tolerance of racism between different terraces which took many years to eradicate and even now it sometimes appears albeit very rarely e.g. Sterling at Chelsea last year.
 

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I remember hearing 'gay boys gay boys' and 'does your boyfriend know you're here?' Not that long ago. I wouldn't be surprised if there are players that have already come out to teammates, but aren't yet ready to go public.
 

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I remember hearing 'gay boys gay boys' and 'does your boyfriend know you're here?' Not that long ago. I wouldn't be surprised if there are players that have already come out to teammates, but aren't yet ready to go public.

I remember it being sung a couple of seasons ago against Scunthorpe I think because the Keeper was playing in an all pink kit.
 

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Everyone is not accepting of everyone’s sexuality. I think that’s the point. The fact that no player has come out as gay whilst still playing speaks volume that there is still a huge stigma around sexuality in football.
My 13 year old son came out to me a few months ago. It really hammered it home to me how huge a thing it is. I really struggled when I advised him to keep it quiet at school as I did not want him to be alienated. I met with the head teacher at his school and even in this day and age the advice is to not broadcast it.
I have huge respect for this fella and when he does tell the world. In my opinion, it will be a massive step forward for society.

My issue is with the highlighting of it, who really cares whether someone’s son is gay, straight or whatever. It has or should have no relevance.

The world is full of gay people. Great, get on with it but the rest of the world doesn’t need to know. Just like the rest of the world doesn’t need me shouting from the rooftops that I fancy my wife.

I don’t think this player will get any grief. Society has moved on and there’s an openness like never before and rightly so. If he is lauded as some ground breaking hero then we really are taking ten steps backwards.
 

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My issue is with the highlighting of it, who really cares whether someone’s son is gay, straight or whatever. It has or should have no relevance.

The world is full of gay people. Great, get on with it but the rest of the world doesn’t need to know. Just like the rest of the world doesn’t need me shouting from the rooftops that I fancy my wife.

I don’t think this player will get any grief. Society has moved on and there’s an openness like never before and rightly so. If he is lauded as some ground breaking hero then we really are taking ten steps backwards.
Think you are hugely wrong. It’s a massive taboo subject in football and I think you’re naive to think otherwise. In an ideal world it shouldn’t matter but we don’t live in an ideal world.
If a guy comes out as gay in the world of football it will be massive.
To compare it with saying you love your wife is somewhat ignorant. You telling the world you love your wife will in no way have the same consequences as the first professional footballer telling the world he is gay.
As I have said earlier, my son recently came out and the impact it will have on his life is huge, and he doesn’t live his life in the public eye.
What I will concede is that there is little need to highlight it anonymously first, just announce it.
 

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Hopefully. Some people will consider the topic is not even worthy of mention as sexuality should not be an issue, but I think the more barriers are publicly broken down the better.
Some fans still think throwing bananas at black players is funny...

The fact a player is willing to come out, will hopefully, make others more comfortable to come out, further normalising the fact that football has gay and bisexual players who play the sport. The bigots won't be able to take it, but so what.
 

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Think you are hugely wrong. It’s a massive taboo subject in football and I think you’re naive to think otherwise. In an ideal world it shouldn’t matter but we don’t live in an ideal world.
If a guy comes out as gay in the world of football it will be massive.
To compare it with saying you love your wife is somewhat ignorant. You telling the world you love your wife will in no way have the same consequences as the first professional footballer telling the world he is gay.
As I have said earlier, my son recently came out and the impact it will have on his life is huge, and he doesn’t live his life in the public eye.
What I will concede is that there is little need to highlight it anonymously first, just announce it.


Didn’t Justin Fashanu come out as gay nearly 30 years ago ?

We all moved on from that pretty quickly and that was in a much more tense era in terms of acceptance.
 

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Didn’t Justin Fashanu come out as gay nearly 30 years ago ?

We all moved on from that pretty quickly and that was in a much more tense era in terms of acceptance.
Once he had retired. Not whilst he was still playing iirc
Just googled it. Killed himself when he was 37 after coming out towards the end of his career. Paid 75k by his brother to keep it quiet. Guess he didn’t get over it as quickly as you @dickwalton1964
 
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